Monday, October 04, 2010

Why (Most) Men Shouldn't Write Advice Columns

It seems "Dear John" won't be providing much in the way of serious competition for Dr. Phil.

Dear Readers,

Okay, so not all men are as dense as "Dear John" ... but is there a grain of truth in that men are sometimes less attuned to relationship issues than women? If so, is it an ability thing ... or just who is more interested in that sort of thing? What do you think?

Regardless of your opinion, I hope it gave you a chuckle anyway.

All the best,


  1. I think everyone has an opinion and Dear John answered her question in my opinion.
    You only get one question and an answer for each problem.
    The car was the first problem and he answered it now if she had specifically asked for some advice towards the other issue I am sure Dear John would have answered it as professionally as he could.
    If Dear John is a man (Sometimes it’s a woman) he would have help solve it by asking for the neighbour’s daughter’s phone number to take her off her husbands hands.
    Problem solved or at least it works for me.

  2. It depends upon your personal level of awareness. Many people do not think in layers, or truly listen, and so are miss perceiving what is really being said and the emotions behind it.

    I no longer think it is man or woman issue. I think it deals with the concept of effectiveness in communication, and how important that is to you -- or not.

    You have always been an excellent listener here on your blog. Your advice helped me years ago when I could not yet understand it with my heart (just my head) and now it is so obvious I cannot believe I could not see.
    Such is the path of learning. You only know what you know until you know more.

  3. Andrew, that's hilarious!

  4. Lori: It made me laugh out loud when I first saw it :o)

    Loving Annie: I agree with you, in that each of us perceives issues based on their personal importance to us. Personally, it's important to me that I find a way to smile every day... hence the post.

    Walker: A truly unique solution!! Offer to compete with the husband. I must admit that didn't occur to me :o)

    Thanks everyone!

  5. That is hilarious! True, not all men are as dense as "John", but really, men aren't exactly the ones one turns to when asking for relationship advice, right?

    Personally, I have given a lot of advice to divorcing couples and the like, but on a more, say, "professional" level, and not exactly what you'd call personal. For example, I one piece of advice I give to clients who cannot seem to agree with each other is to participate in mediation, which I have written a whole article on. If you have the time to read it, please do so by visiting this link:

    I couldn't bookmark just the post, so I bookmarked your blog on StumbleUpon, Delicious, Digg, Reddit and Google bookmarks.

  6. LOL! But I must admit, some men are like John:(