tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post115204800075518165..comments2023-05-25T10:37:58.109-03:00Comments on To Love, Honor, and Dismay: Dismaying Story #1: The Myth of the Helpless HusbandAndrew McAllisterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-39058014852284221352009-10-29T03:20:04.313-03:002009-10-29T03:20:04.313-03:00I had the same problem (along with pretty severe v...I had the same problem (along with pretty severe verbal abuse) for 20 years with my ex. When I finally had enough and he actually realized that I was planning my escape he actually admitted to me that he had been doing it on purpose! If he ruined my clothes in the laundry, for example, he figured he wouldn't be asked again to help in that capacity. It was just another form of manipulation.suznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-43598711356360769022009-08-10T20:35:18.256-03:002009-08-10T20:35:18.256-03:00There was an entire Everybody Loves Raymond episod...There was an entire Everybody Loves Raymond episode about how Ray feigned an inability to do child care/housework activities. How the f did Debra put up with that BS? My DH is wonderful with the kids and taking care of the kitchen, cooking, cleaning... because he WANTS to be. He likes to eat good food, so he developed his ability to cook (as have I over the years--we married at age 20). Yes, he gets frustrated with taking care of the girls and complained about not knowing where all their toys go when helping them clean their rooms, but guess what? I told him it doesn't really matter and he reorganized the youngest room with her and it was better than I ever had it! Your DH should care more!Lauren Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13594580547651494016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1158617310446656832006-09-18T19:08:00.000-03:002006-09-18T19:08:00.000-03:00Ah...selective helplessness...I did an entire stan...Ah...selective helplessness...I did an entire stand up comedy routine once based on men who could go into the wilderness and live off the land for weeks with little more than nail clippers but the same men left alone at home with meat trapped in a zip lock bag could starve to death. Let's not get started on men and gift wrapping....Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03468282100176801806noreply@blogger.com