tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post116287577384245529..comments2023-05-25T10:37:58.109-03:00Comments on To Love, Honor, and Dismay: Is This the Right Room for an Argument?Andrew McAllisterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1163020337280369622006-11-08T17:12:00.000-04:002006-11-08T17:12:00.000-04:00I have a few stupid small arguments with my husban...I have a few stupid small arguments with my husband every now and then and I always end up forgetting what my complaint was.<BR/><BR/>I got all John Grey's tapes for christmas once and I loved them.Leiloutahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423130301990752458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162959448632163062006-11-08T00:17:00.000-04:002006-11-08T00:17:00.000-04:00Great advice. My husband says I store events in my...Great advice. My husband says I store events in my brain and them when we fight, I pull out something insensitive he said three years ago. <BR/><BR/>It ain't easy,<BR/>SaraSara's Varolo Villagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426155944690608196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162925002043065182006-11-07T14:43:00.000-04:002006-11-07T14:43:00.000-04:00I enjoy reading your sound, sensible articles, And...I enjoy reading your sound, sensible articles, Andrew. And you’re funny too! I just about spewed my coffee when I read this on your sidebar: “My wife says the letters after my name stand for Propeller Head.”<BR/><BR/>LOL! :-DDaisy Dexter Dobbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431829813135214824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162918133458669022006-11-07T12:48:00.000-04:002006-11-07T12:48:00.000-04:00people are not taught how to resolve conflicts...a...people are not taught how to resolve conflicts...and i figure it's the reason most people get divorced...they act passive-aggressive or argue all the time...<BR/><BR/>me, i'm passive/aggressive...<BR/><BR/>but i've learned to speak out - say my peace and then let it go...<BR/><BR/>but that walking away when you are mad is so very important...i think people need to make aggreements with each other BEFORE they argue..set ground rules...and make it ok to say "i need a break, let's come back to this in an hour"azgoddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15190285114417409204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162902363949127092006-11-07T08:26:00.000-04:002006-11-07T08:26:00.000-04:00arguing is beautiful,only you should see that the ...arguing is beautiful,only you should see that the ego doesnt show itself up frquently. i used to argue,a lot with my friend and it alwayz brought us closer at the end. i guess its knowing that love and opinion are two different things thats importantIncrediblyirrationalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09542150812491464203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162886734102478412006-11-07T04:05:00.000-04:002006-11-07T04:05:00.000-04:00I'm guilty of losing my temper once in a while. B...I'm guilty of losing my temper once in a while. But after venting in anger, I always find myself feeling burdened with a heavy heart. I always regret bursting in anger. Careless words can cause emotional pain. I always regret things in the end. My husband is very patient and understanding. He seems to know how to pacify me when I'm angry. He actually helps me avoid emotional outbursts by talking to me in a soothing voice. I realized it helps to talk about it. Talking somehow eases the burden. I also learned that counting one to ten can sometimes do the trick. :) Although I admit I still succumb to anger, I have learned to control it and not to let it get the best of me. I'm thankful for a loving and understanding husband.<BR/><BR/>RachAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1162885142507580612006-11-07T03:39:00.000-04:002006-11-07T03:39:00.000-04:00this is so me and my boyfriend it's scary. we love...this is so me and my boyfriend it's scary. we love each other to death, we have amazing chemistry and most of the time we're just two cuddly lovey-doveys (we've had complaints from our friends that we're too sugary). and then disaster strikes. about once in a month or two we both have bad days and there it goes. and it's exactly the way you said it.<BR/><BR/>however, i believe anger - if not let out - grows bigger and bigger. you keep it in and it turns into a timebomb and the longer you keep it in the nastier it is when it gets out. i, as a human, need moments when i'm out of control so that i can control myself better the rest of the time.<BR/><BR/>for us, we scream, we shout, he even broke a plate at two (and, no, they were not heading towards me :p) a couple of times, but then it all goes back to normal. and an hour later we're the same lovey-doveys we were before. <BR/><BR/>we have to accept our angry side. otherwise it will end up controlling us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com