tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post116448945736891431..comments2023-05-25T10:37:58.109-03:00Comments on To Love, Honor, and Dismay: Negative Self Talk and a New Question of the Week (#16)Andrew McAllisterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1164558488306507232006-11-26T12:28:00.000-04:002006-11-26T12:28:00.000-04:00Wow Andrew,I think I'll have to buy the book. I ha...Wow Andrew,<BR/><BR/>I think I'll have to buy the book. I have so many damned conversations with myself I always feel like I'm in a crowded room when I'm alone. Thanks for the tip!<BR/>JBjbwritergirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14496164344454761065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-1164513141001312702006-11-25T23:52:00.000-04:002006-11-25T23:52:00.000-04:00Many Thanks to Andrew for his using my curriculum ...Many Thanks to Andrew for his using my curriculum as an example of how people can eliminate negative self talk.<BR/><BR/>My proven self-evaluation technique addresses society’s valiant attempts to promote self-esteem. Current approaches are designed to create more confident, well-rounded individuals. However, this old dogma has created legions of people proclaiming their importance and strength on the outside, while struggling with rampant insecurity on the inside. I show people how to break down the false bravado and replace it with the strength of developing genuine humble confidence.<BR/><BR/>People with low self-esteem are looking for answers in books, tapes, techniques and therapy. Many of my clients have read the books, visited therapists and listened to the tapes, only to find that their gnawing feelings of inadequacy remain. Often I find that those who enquire about my services have taken a self-esteem program of some sort while in high school or college, with the same lack of positive results. In discussing these failures, it is apparent that the way self-esteem is taught is ineffective because it promotes a superficial, false confidence but does not work on the specific cause of the problem.<BR/><BR/>The development of humble confidence examines the root of the trouble, identifies the cause and then helps eliminate the negative self-talk that perpetuates poor self-image and lack of confidence.<BR/>The simple process allows the individual to reap the positive messages from their past experiences and abandon the negative ownership of past trauma. This is a simple, yet amazingly powerful concept. <BR/><BR/>Ironically, I actually have coached several mental health professionals who, though they know volumes about the human psyche, were unable to cast off their own self doubt. <BR/><BR/>Thank you again for the opportunity to participate in this exchange and I am humbled by Andrew's praise and compliments. Anyone who feels that my program may help can contact me through Andrew's site. <BR/><BR/>Your servant and guide,<BR/><BR/>Thomas K. Matthews<BR/>info@speakforlife.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com