tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post3203487483361320860..comments2023-05-25T10:37:58.109-03:00Comments on To Love, Honor, and Dismay: Dismaying Story #142: My Parents Don’t Like My BoyfriendAndrew McAllisterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-23097808138394291922012-03-16T02:50:27.129-03:002012-03-16T02:50:27.129-03:00I agree with Owner of a Home School that a respect...I agree with Owner of a Home School that a respectable man would reach out and care about the parents' opinion. That said, if he never had that behavior modeled, then it would be hard.Agrigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15315489868330010105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-35413222586198008742012-03-11T14:57:33.348-03:002012-03-11T14:57:33.348-03:00Andrew has covered every base, and covered them al...Andrew has covered every base, and covered them all so well too. Lots of issues here for the unhappy young woman to consider.<br /><br />I can add only something from my own life experience.<br /><br />I can, sort of, relate to her situation from a time in my long-ago past (as could many readers, I feel sure). <br /><br />I was much older than 19 at the time. My parents seriously disliked my relationship with a significant other. Though I could partly understand why they felt as they did, I went my own way. The relationship became a very long-term one - 30+ years to be exact. My parents, until their death never did fully accept this guy, though he did his best to overcome their dislike.<br /><br />What I can tell you from my experience is that it brought me a lot of pain over the years, but I still would not change anything because I loved the guy in question - and did love him until the day that he died.<br /><br />Love is the key to this conundrum, as it is to most of the world's ills.<br /><br />Your letter doesn't mention that you have any feelings of love for this young man - simply that you have been enjoying sharing dates for around a year. The feel I get from your letter is that you are not yet at the point where true love comes into the equation, and that your worries are more involved with not upsetting your parents. If this is so, then chatting with them and explaining that you are not seriously involved in a love relationship might calm their concerns.<br /><br />If, though, you do have deeper feelings for the guy - and if they lead you into a long-term relationship deeper than simply dating, do be aware that there will be pain....and a lot of it.Twilighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14138621610593773784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-37946022384276702302012-03-11T00:44:51.645-04:002012-03-11T00:44:51.645-04:00Oh wow, you speak such sense!! Thanks for the com...Oh wow, you speak such sense!! Thanks for the comment on my blog, so glad you got what i meant - my husband is my world!! Love Posieposie blogs Jennie McClellandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07422068499429667636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-55191759770116184222012-03-10T17:35:40.428-04:002012-03-10T17:35:40.428-04:00andrew, well said!:)andrew, well said!:)Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13320663187590059855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30644215.post-38463927068442627662012-03-10T15:53:21.015-04:002012-03-10T15:53:21.015-04:00I wasn't taken aback with your post (as I thin...I wasn't taken aback with your post (as I think many a family goes through something similar) until I read that last part where you mentioned that your boyfriend "just laughs and says not to worry about it". To me, that would be a red flag.<br />A respectable young man would share your concern and want to be able to reach out and show your parents that he is worthy of you and also that they can trust and like him. His nonchalance and lack of concern would concern me, if I were you.Judy Dudichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08075072259006322851noreply@blogger.com